Indicators : A relationship that is not for keeps

So we all have that one special person who we want to spend our life with.

And now you are hopelessly in love with them , you guys are spending time together , you can hardly imagine there could be a partner more suitable for you.
Then , u have a quarrel and you are wondering it was such a fairy tale but why and what happened.

Well , for one every relationship no matter how perfect it seems from outside has a spell of downs but you don't always have to give up on them and also you don't always have to hang on to them.
However, you can actually pick up hints to figure out whether or not it is worth fighting for.

Indications of a fading relationship

1. Disrespect - No matter how many gifts he gets you , no matter how many hugs he gives no, no matter how many i love you's and i miss you's he says. If he doesn't think you are worth being respected for the person you are, your opinions , your likes , your dreams, then it won't last.Disrespect whether public or in private , in form of verbal of physical abuse should not be tolerated ( toleration of such behaviors is as good as encouragement to such behavior).  Insult made in public must b apologized for in public, he can't insult you in front of people and come and say sorry to you in private, that doesn't caress your reputation.
2. Lack of trust - Often being possessive is mistaken for love . It is obvious for him to feel a little jealous of your friends of opposite sex. However, he has got to trust you, he cannot claim to be in love with you yet be imagining that you are cheating on him with your friend / friends. Of course to make him feel better,maintain agreeable distance from them and include him in your circle. But he can't b moral policing you because he is incapable of trusting the person he loves. Naturally , if either partner is acting too secretive the other has the right to question but be fair in you judgments.
3. Over financial dependence - So you guys are going around, and you want to make all his dreams and wishes come true. But remember he claims to love you too and should almost wish the same for you. Instead of taking you for granted for your love and help. Any person with a self esteem will not use other persons money with dis-regard. You will be the best person to judge what level of dependence is over dependence but don't be fooled because you are in love.
4. Disregard to your family - Ok so once in a while you hate your mom because she may not understand you , you are upset with your dad because he wants you to do 'A' but you want to do 'B'. But no matter how much you crib about them, you love them, you don't want hear against them from others, then don't ever take it from him also. A good understanding companion will never advise you against them.
5. Don't have happy moments to share about your relationship - Being around someone you love makes you happy. Love is a kind of happiness you want to share, but now you feel sad and don't have good things to share about your relationship. If your relationship is making you unhappy acknowledge your feelings and move on.

(P.S. the he is just used for convenience of writing, it applies to she partners also)

The above indicators are my personal parameters for judging relationships you may agree or disagree with them. But if you are reading this article and identifying with it as a sufferer or you have been wondering in the past about the quality of your relationship, then i guess, its time you picked yourself up, and decided to move on if the above applies to your case.

Relationships that want to culminate into a happy marriage...marriages that want to run as happy....need to meet some basic requirements.

I don't say be intolerant of your partner but do be aware of 'drawing the line'.

Sometimes some bad things happen in heat of the moment they may be ignored, but don't turn a blind eye to the present because you are in love with the past.

All the best for making a Happy you and a Happy life :)